Today and every Monday for a while you can hear chapters of my book The Pregnant Pause of Grief. It’s been almost 6 years since my Dear Ronald went to be with Jesus. I started to read the book again myself, just to see how far I have come since that first horrible grief. And then Hopestreamradio.com added it to their Monday roster. Tune in, won’t you? I pray it helps you as it helped me. Brenda J Wood
The doctor asked me not to drive until after some tests were completed. The tests were expected to take anywhere from two weeks to two months. It wasn’t the doctor’s fault, really. It is a government guideline, but that didn’t help my head much. I gave myself the Peter disease.
UGH!! Not drive? What was she thinking? How would I get to where I needed to go? How would I get to the grocery store or a doctor appointment? I’d have to beg the kids for a ride. I’d have to sell my home and go live in my kids’ basement. What about my car? What would I do with it?
In minutes, I’d worked myself into hysteria. Then I called friends and family and shared the disease. Some of them refused to take it on. They offered calm; they offered rides; they offered compassion… BUT I DIDN’T WANT ANY OF IT! I WANTED TO DRIVE MY OWN SELF IN MY OWN CAR!!!
But I had no choice, or so I thought.
I forgot to remember Peter, who forgot to remember Jesus
Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy-laden and overburdened, and I will cause you to rest. (Matthew 11:28a, AMP)
Prayer – Father, forgive us for forgetting, rePETERly, again and again, what you tell us. Amen
Years ago, I learned to balk at a Christmas with more than one big meal. That’s because we spent our first Christmas day together, running from pillar to post, trying to make everyone happy. So Ron, infant Judith and I trailed a mile down the road to my parents for seven am breakfast, drove through a blizzard to Gran’s for lunch an hour away and finally scurried home to serve dinner at our house for all of Ron’s family…..WHEW!!!
And who was cause of all this commotion? Me. I didn’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings. I felt guilty for saying no to anyone, so instead I hurt my own feelings…. and my family’s.
Little by little over the years, with Ron’s encouragement,we cut down to only one or two events per holiday. Today though, I find myself going to the Keenagers catered lunch and the Writer’s Nest home cooked Christmas dinner. WHEW!!!
Why? Because I can. And because all of these dear people are my friends and I love being with them. And because I decided I wanted to, with no guilt involved. It bears remembering that guilt is not from God.
Yesterday the first copy of my first children’s book, The Big Red Chair (CD included) arrived at my door. I’ll be reading it at both events. It is a happy, funny, sad love story about life and death…..
I wrote it because our smaller grandchildren didn’t understand what happened to their Afi. I expect lots of other little ones feel the same. We often unknowingly and unfairly lock them out of our grief.
And yes it is for sale….
To our surprise Ron was released from hospital today when we had expected him to be in till at least Wednesday. His last chemotherapy worked too well and took his white and red cells down to almost non existent……
Today though he is back to his old self and we are grateful!! God is GOOD!!
I didn’t for a long time. For years I tried to make everyone else happy. The trouble with that is that I wasn’t. Happy, I mean.
Others often picked where I would eat, how I would spend my time, and invest my energy. The more I read my Bible, the more I understood that God wanted me to be myself. Wow!
Now most people would call me unconventional at best and down right annoyingly different at worst. They didn’t change but I did.
I learned to set boundaries. If what you want isn’t good for me and my family, get over it!
Does that sound too fierce for a Christian to say? Biblically, it is correct. God has a plan for our lives and He expects us to be our true selves, not the selves others want us to be.
If you aren’t sold on this, you should check out ‘Foolproofing Your Life’ by Jan Silvious. It’s a study of Proverbs. It deals with the fools in your life who try to use, manipulate, and order you around.(Check for it at Precept Ministries)
As Walt Disney said: The more you are like yourself, the more you will like yourself!
You go, guys and gals. Start on the road to being who you really are and watch what God will do with that honesty! Brenda J. Wood
We were saddened to discover our summer visitors left without saying good bye. Hummingbirds are polite, social beings. Every year they announce their arrival by fluttering in our face for a few seconds and they say good bye the same way.
This year,the September chill kept us from the back porch. Any fluttering birdies fluttered alone.
How like our relationship with God. We wonder why we don’t feel so cherished and close to Him as we used to, only to discover that He has been waiting patiently for us to make ourselves available to His presence.
This might be a great day to sit down with your Bible.
The book of John is a great place to start.
God is waiting for you…
HOW TO LIVE LIKE A PRINCESS WHEN YOUR LIFE IS THE PITS– Brenda Wood
The Bible says that even in laughter the heart may ache. That is true, but we can decide which side of the ache we will stand on. Brenda Wood is a recovered bulimic that speaks with common sense, a sense of humour and a zest for life. Her latest book is called “Heartfelt, 366 Devotions for Common Sense Living”.
This is the blurb used to describe my presentation at the Fall Festival Retreat
at Malvern FM Church on October 16…
Contact info is Flora at 1 416 283-9757
No Work Crock Pot Stew
Layer ingredients in large crock pot in order listed
1 pound uncooked (and not browned!) beef stewing meat, patted dry
1-2 sliced onions
carrots (cut in 2 inch pieces or use bag of small carrots)
potatoes, peeled, cut in 2 inch pieces
mushrooms, celery if desired
salsa, 2-3 tablespoons
cream of mushroom (or celery) soup (1 can or 2 if you really like gravy)
DO NOT add anything else. Cook on low heat for 5-6 hours and serve.
The leftovers freeze well. The joy is you can make it any size with any amounts. Just be sure the crock-pot is at least 3/4 full.
Chicken pieces with cream of tomato soup
Pork pieces instead of beef
Enjoy! Brenda Wood
A Reminder That Laughter is the Best Medicine
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Watch as this Home Instead client reminds us that laughter is the best medicine.
A friend of the couple who founded Home Instead Senior Care, Mary Maxwell was asked to give the invocation at the company’s 2009 Convention. Initially it seemed like a normal prayer, but it soon took a very funny turn. Her deadpan delivery and lines like …This is the first time I’ve ever been old… and it just sort of crept up on me … soon had the franchise owners rolling in the aisles. With the timing of a professional comedian, Mary shines a very funny light on the foibles of aging, to the delight of this audience of senior-care experts.
Download a copy of the poem, Blessed In Aging (PDF 275k), which Mary reads at the end of her prayer.