When the Loneliness Overwhelms..

Though words may seem so little, I hope, in some small way,

That what I say may ease the pain Of the loss you feel today.

Hold fast to all your memories That you cherish from the past:

The blessings and the laughter, And the sorrows along life’s path.

For these are precious treasures— The GOLD of your yesterdays.

They are memories that only the two of you shared.

Keep them safely stored away. The special moments in your life

That you and your loved one shared

Are ever locked within your heart. And forever, they’ll be there.

© Helen Dowd (used by permission)

Prayer- Father God, thank you for giving us the gold of yesterdays. Amen.

Mad at John Boy Walton

I like to watch The Waltons–it’s heartwarming and wise BUT TODAY??? That John-Boy made me so mad!!Grandma is in the hospital and Grandpa is lonely. He describes himself as heartsick.

John-Boy gives him a ‘we care too, Grandpa’ speech…AND then has the nerve to suggest that as the head of the family, Grandpa should do better so the rest won’t feel so bad!!!!!!!.

What! Grandpa (s) and Grandma(s)  can’t grieve cause we have to make the family feel better!! You have got to be kidding me. I did allude to this in The Pregnant Pause of Grief as something we may try to do for others, but NOT at the expense of our own grief.


Blah-ging. That’s how I’ve felt about blogging lately.

When you don’t see me writing you know by now that I’ve been in a bad place but today the sun seems a bit brighter, the grief a bit lighter and the world worth attending to…

Thanks for your patience. I’d love to hear your comments. Do you ever get to a ‘bad’ patch where everything seems too much? Or am I alone in this???


Chapter 1-MeetingMeeting Myself, Snippets from a Binging and Bulging Mind and Chapter 1- The Pregnant Pause of Grief are now here on line for you to read and enjoy for free! Just check the page links above. Read, enjoy and then tell me what you think.

I’d love to hear from you. Please feel free to share the link with others.

Brenda J Wood

Belinda’s Mom

As a follower of Belinda’s blog (Whatever He says) I feel like I know her family. Her Mom has been in poor health for quite a while and she just passed into the arms of Jesus. Two lines from her last blog caught my attention.

The first from a beloved Grandaughter

‘”It’s Uncle Bob,” she says, between her soft sobs, “Omie has died.”

The next from Belinda’s brother, Rob who was with Mum when she passed.The kindnesses of the nurses comforted him.  He said. How sweet kindness feels to a heart that is laid raw.

What a profound statement. I understand that so well because of the many kindnesses to me over this past few months.

So if you will…pray comfort and peace for the family. Pray that their raw hearts will begin to experience the tender healing of the Lord Jesus Christ. Amen

Holiday Cheer

Ephesians 6:22I  have sent him to you for this very purpose, that you may know how we
are and that he may console and cheer and encourage and strengthen your  hearts

Different in some ways, familiar in others, funerals have one thing in common. Most of us don’t know what to say to the bereaved.  Pastor Cliff  Fletcher offers good advice on ways to comfort.

“When in doubt, remember a hug, a firm handshake and ‘I’m sorry’ goes a  long way. Pray before speaking. This is not the time for advice or sermons. Instead, give memories. Mention times shared. Comfort doesn’t end at the funeral. Holidays and birthdays are coming up. Be available.
Send a card. Make a phone call.”

When the next sad occasion happens, let’s make an effort to comfort the bereaved. Why not ask God to watch our mouths and help us do or say the  right thing? There are many opportunities at the Christmas season. Many  people find it to be the most difficult time of the year.

PrayerDear God, remind us to pray before speaking and then let consolation and cheer be our goal. Thanks. In Jesus’ name. Amen.

No Light Matter

Every day, the web site, Everydaychristian.com posts a devotional from my book,Heartfelt- 366 devotionals for common Sense Living. Today is just for me I am sure. I wrtoe it just after my sister went to be with Jesus. I hope you can access it from here…
Sep 02, 2011 12:00 am

Psalm 116: 15-Precious (important and no light matter) in
the sight of the Lord is the death of His saints (His loving ones)
The mailman thought it must be my birthday, but then …