Marilyn Rouse comments on The Pregnant Pause of Grief
Brenda Wood has done it again. I peeked inside her life when I read
“Meeting Myself, Snippets from a Binging and Bulging Mind (twice!)
Then as now, she laid her soul bare so that we might be lifted up.
Yes, The Pregnant Pause of Grief” is the story of a grief process and that there is no definitive map to follow. However it is also two love stories. First, that of our God for us and second, the ability of a man and a woman to mirror that love to each other. What an incredible gift. Thank you for your courage Brenda.
Certain days groove into your brain, don’t they? Christmas and New Year’s are easy. They happen at the same time every year. Easter keeps moving so while we remember the occasion, we have to check the calendar every year to pin point the actual date. My mom, my dad and my sister have been dead for a long time but I still remember their birthdays.
Today, March 22, was Ron’s birthday. By now he’d have opened his presents. I’d be baking a chocolate cake, or maybe topping a Mile-High Lemon Pie with candles. I’m so glad for so many memories of our happy times together.
Memory is the ability of the mind to retain learned information and knowledge of past events and experiences and to retrieve that information and knowledge.
I’m marking this day with quiet retrospection, journaling my thoughts and maybe even cooking Ron’s special favorites or going out for an Afi burger. (Ron’s favorite #2 Wendy’s hamburger) I think God would approve. After all, even Jesus planned for memories.
When she poured this perfume on my body, she did it to prepare me for burial.Truly I tell you, wherever this gospel is preached throughout the world, what she has done will also be told, in memory of her.” (Matthew 26:12-13, NIV)
Prayer: God, may our hearts remember our loved ones with your love. In Christ. Amen.
The soothing tongue is a tree of life, but a perverse tongue crushes the spirit. (Proverbs 15:4, NIV)
God gives his children the best.
“Don’t bargain with God. Be direct. Ask for what you need. This isn’t a cat-and-mouse, hide-and-seek game we’re in. If your child asks for bread, do you trick him with sawdust? If he asks for fish, do you scare him with a live snake on his plate? As bad as you are, you wouldn’t think of such a thing. You’re at least decent to your own children. So don’t you think the God who conceived you in love will be even better? (Matthew 7:7-11, MSG)
Evil never looks like what it really is– a little bit of hell looking for a home.
(Monica on Touched by an Angel)
So that bit of icecream when we have a couple of pounds to lose,
that time or two we run a red light,
the cigarette we wish we didn’t take,
the friend we abandon cause we are too busy,
the leftover $1.00 or two in change that should go to the customer…
are really greed, addictions, lies, self-interest….oh, you pick.
We all need to read this post and write our own letter of apology to our bodies for we have not treated them with respect and love. Mostly we’ve tried to kill ourselves with stress, bad food, drink, cigarettes and lack of exercise..
Let me know what you think after you read this and write your own letter.
What a delightful read. The book tells the story of the German occupation of the Guernsey Islands during world war 2 through a series of letters. Charming, heartbreaking and funny…all at once. Do read it and tell me what you think.
Brenda J Wood
When my friend writes to me, she addresses her notes this way.
BELOVED Brenda! Blessed Beyond Measure. Highly Favored Child of God Most High.
I love it. It makes me feel special. But God thinks of me (and you) that way all the time. Why is it that we don’t take it in to the depths of our being? Listen to some of His comments.
Just as He says in Hosea, Those who were not My people I will call My people, and her who was not beloved [I will call] My beloved. (Romans 9:25, AMP)
Clothe yourselves therefore, as God’s own chosen ones (His own picked representatives), [who are] purified and holy and well-beloved [by God Himself, (Colossians 3:12a, AMP)
[O] brethren beloved by God, we recognize and know that He has selected (chosen) you; (1 Thessalonians 1:4a, AMP)
Beloved, we are [even here and] now God’s children (John 3:2a, AMP)
Prayer: Lord, thank you for loving us so very much. Help us love You in return. Amen.
March 2 was our 50th wedding anniversary and God threw me a 50th wedding anniversary party! I went to the podium to speak at exactly -to the minute- 50 years after Ron and I were declared man and wife.
So on March 3rd…
I just got home after a trying but touching event last night.where people laughed, cried and came to know Jesus… I was quite controlled and strong—in Christ of course…but I am crying my way through today which is perfectly fine!
We were on our honeymoon and ordered pancakes one morning. My Ron was eating his way through a stack of them and looked up and said to me–When we get married, you will have to make me pancakes!
So I bought an order of them on the way home and ate every morsel with sausage and bacon and even syrup with never a thought of carbs, fat or dress size…
The Pregnant Pause of Grief-the first trimester of widowhood is now on Amazon…