book review-Grieving God’s Way by Margaret Brownley

Grieving God’s Way by Margaret Brownley


I held off reading this book for several months because I was writing my own book on grief,

‘The Pregnant Pause of Grief, the first trimester of widowhood.’  Interestingly, her book format covers ninety days and my book covers 3 months. In this space of time, it seems we learn our hardest lessons, the ones that help us cope for the next decades.


While I lost my husband and Ms. Brownley lost her son, our grief is very similar.


I’ll mention just a few.

God can and will meet our needs

Nothing tastes better than carbs when you are miserable.

Accept depression as part of the grief.

Treat yourself with as much care as you would another person.

I don’t know if it is correct to say I enjoyed this book, but I certainly found it helpful. I would recommend it to any one who is suffering loss.

Brenda J Wood

Funny Phrases

An araprosdokian is a sentence with a surprisingly funny turn of phrase.  Here are some examples.

I know a tomato is a fruit but I’m not serving it with whipped cream.

Where there’s a will, write my name in it with the rest of the relatives.

Change is inevitable, except in Canadian pennies.

I thought I’d travel but all I got is a work station.

Here is a famous Winston Churchill Araprosdokian: I am ready to meet my Maker. Whether my Maker is prepared for the ordeal of meeting me is another matter.

Did you ever think that maybe that’s why some of us live so long?

Prayer- Lord, as we get ready to meet you face-to face, help us build ourselves up in faith, pray and keep ourselves in your love, all the while, patiently waiting till you call us into eternal life. (from Jude 1:20-21, AMP)

Your Favourite Sandwich?

Blogger Belinda Burston is a great fan of Victoria Sandwich Cake . So here is the question for you today. What is your favourite cake or for that matter your favourite sandwich? Share won’t you?

The Message Bible offers up 25 verses including the word sandwich. The Amplified Bible lists 40 verses mentioning cakes, every kind from barley to date and raisin but no sandwiches !

1 Chronicles 16:3

And he distributed to everyone of Israel, both man and woman, to everyone a loaf of bread, a portion of meat, and a cake of raisins.

The Pregnant Pause of Grief, by Brenda J. Wood is an emotional and honest look at widowhood.

After losing her husband to cancer, the author began to chronicle her thoughts and experiences of what she was going through. She begins with the statement, “By the end of this month, I expect to know my own name.” This sets the tone of the book and guides the reader along with the author on her journey to self-discovery. The result is a book that will bring much comfort to anyone who has lost a spouse – widow or widower.

Mixed with just the right infusion of humour, the author holds nothing back. Her emotions are raw in the face of her loss, yet her hope and her foundation for not losing herself to uncontrollable grief, is her faith in Jesus Christ. While we learn about the tender love affair she had with her husband Ron, we also learn about her love affair with God. Together they made a complete unit. God, Ron and Brenda. Now, as she adjusts to “just Brenda and God,” she learns why grieving is a good thing. At the same time, she also learns how to surrender to God each day and moment as she adjusts to the new title of “widow”.

Now you might think that this book should be read only by widows and widowers. Nothing could be further from the truth. There were many times when her words of wisdom, the scriptures she shared, and her own life experiences resonated with me, even though I deal with physical pain, not emotional.

If you have experienced loss of any kind, I would advise you to pick up this book. I only wish it had been around for my mother in-law after her husband died. She cried for his loss until the day she died, two years almost to the day of his passing. If I had this fabulous little book in my hand, I might have known what to say or do (or not do) and I know it would have brought her comfort to know that her tears were perfectly normal. She was always apologizing for them.

This book needs to be in every doctor‘s office, funeral home and church and  you can purchase it here in our bookstore. You won’t regret it! I give it 5/5 stars

Laura Davis Reviews The Pregnant Pause of Grief

Laura Davis is a renowned book reviewer. She just gave  The Pregnant Pause of Grief, the first trimester of widowhood, 5 stars!

You can click here to read it on her page, Interviews and Reviews or find it on my blog,

For Droolers Only

The more wonderful that I am on my Weight Watchers plan, the more I drool over terrific recipes…Never loose this yummy one. That doesn’t mean you have to make and eat it… just drool!
8 oz softened cream cheese
1/4 cup butter (room temperature)
1/2 tsp of vanilla extract
1-1/2 tablespoons brown sugar
1/3 cup icing sugar (powdered sugar)
1/2 cup chopped pecans
1/2 cup mini semisweet choc chips
1/2 pk dry vanilla pudding mix
1/2 cup caramel topping plus little more for drizzling
1.Cream soften cream cheese & butter.
2.Add caramel topping and beat well.
3.Cream in brown sugar & icing sugar.
4.Add vanilla & dry pudding mix.
5.Fold in choc chips & pecans.
6.Pat into a ball and refrigerate for one hour.
7.Place ball on serving platter, drizzle with caramel topping and serve with chocolate wafers, chocolate graham fingers, Nilla wafers or sliced apples.


Foodie Penpals

I got a bag of Biscotti Chips from my gal’s hometown

And chai seeds for  energy, sunflower seeds for fun

And chocolate in a new form you guzzle till you’re done!

A thoroughly healthy mixture, a heartfelt gift of care.

I hope I’ve been as careful with what I mailed out there.

I tried to send a mixture of what I’m all about.

I didn’t know just what to send. I didn’t have a clue.

So I picked a wide array of stuff to tell of me to you!

I’m a recent widow and missing my Dear Ron,

Hamburger was his favourite food and Helper? He was one!

And pizza chips are family food, reminding me of fun

And rice for speedy dinners, the ones we all create

And wine gums for the tired. Who hasn’t whined a bit!

Veggie soup I eat a lot, now that I’m alone

and Ontario Apple Butter for that is where it’s grown.

The writing bit? One of my books, the one on overeating,

Bulimia and healing and that is what I’m stating.

This poem isn’t quite my best, but I send my best to you

With thanks to one and all, indeed for the fun this was to do.

Brenda J Wood, author, speaker