Functioning Grief

Thanks to Bonnie Dean of Memory Bears for allowing me to reprint her post here. Her full address is at the bottom of the page…  Pop in and say Hi. You will like her site!


There is ample information today on the process of grieving. All you have to do is pick up any book and therein you will find instructions and a schedule for grieving.

Some information can bring clarity to the grieving process; too much information brings only confusion. This confusion can add unnecessary weight to your grief.

The sole authority concerning your grief is you. No one else can experience your grief. No one else can walk in your shoes. Others can have empathy and sympathy to some degree, but the grief is yours, only you know the depth and pain of it.

If you, in your grief, are able to function with the affairs of daily living, then you are doing okay. Grief is now part of your life. The pain will lessen with time and life will continue, as it should. Your grief, your sense of loss will always be with you.


Liz Curtis Higgs

Posted this on her face book page…Worth memorizing and keeping close to your heart..
      Lord, give me the strength to lift my head,
the courage to lift my heart,
the joy to lift my spirits,
and the confidence to lift my eyes
and see you rising and shining in me.”
 – from Rise and Shine                                 

A Funny Feeling

We laughed and ate and shared our scribbles. It was one of the best Writers’  Nest meetings ever, but it left me with  a peculiar and unrecognised feeling. Finally it came to me. Joy. It was joy. I was having a wonderful time!

At first I felt guilty. How could I be having fun without Ron? Then I remembered how much my Ron enjoyed life and I thought about what another friend told me.

“Take care of yourself, Brenda. Ron would want you to do that.”  And he would.

So thank you Dear Writing Friends—for fun and laughter and for liking my new book. I wrote The Big Red Chair to comfort our grandchildren.  Perhaps it will one day comfort yours! It is going to press soon.

Psalm 30:5bWeeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning (AMP).

Psalm 104:33I will sing to the Lord as long as I live: I will sing praise to my God while I have any being (AMP).







about the author: Brenda Wood

“I believe Jesus is the answer to every question.”

Brenda Wood is a motivational speaker, writer and author of Heartfelt, 366 Devotions for Common Sense Living.
She is also a recovered bulimic who has gained and lost several 1000 pounds over the years! She understands the pain of overweight and the agony of life with an eating disorder. Brenda is known for her common
sense wisdom, sense of humor and quirky comments.

Common Sense Devotionals for Every Day of the Year

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